Get The Look
Kelly and the Importance of Humor
Kelly’s been waiting all morning for her chance in the hot seat.
“I love your jeans by the way,” she says to me as soon as we sit down.
“Thanks!” Then self consciously, “Can you see my legs on film?”
“Ok good because I was going to say we need some hair and makeup if you could.” We both erupt in laughter.
We go back and forth joking about a blooper reel, waiting for the crew to set up.
“I may not make it into the actual film. I’ll be the queen of the blooper reel,” she declares, laughing.
“Well hey, you’re a queen either way.”
Full disclosure, she did “make the cut” and her solo interview will be available to watch on May 10th. As a down-to-earth working mom, Kelly gave us an insightful view on what beauty really is, and talked about the everyday extraordinary with grace, eloquence and humor. You’ll want to bookmark this one.
B&P: Tell us about yourself. Your name, where you’re from and what you do.
“My name is Kelly. I am from Charlotte, NC. I work for a real estate investment company and I am a mom and a wife,” she says this last part with a smile that lights up her whole face.
B&P: What does your typical day look like?
K: My typical day starts at about 6 am. And I have two little boys that are four and seven so I try to get up early to get a little bit ready before I get them up. I definitely don’t shower in the morning, just kind of do my hair and makeup as much as I can. Most days it’s very minimal. Get the boys up, get them ready, get them dressed, take them to school and day care. Four or five days a week I go to the gym too in the mornings. And I work at home, so then I come home and kinda start my day.
B&P: You mentioned that it’s pretty quick, but what does your beauty routine look like in the morning?
K: In the mornings, typically because I’m not getting fully ready – I’m not even putting on work clothes, its mostly yoga pants (laughs) – I’ll comb my hair, and fix it a little bit with some dry shampoo. I am very into skin care so I take really good care of my skin. I always wash my face, moisturize, do the anti-aging thing, then a little bit of concealer. I am obsessed with eyelashes, and my eyelashes are poker straight, so I have to curl my eyelashes before I even go down to get coffee. That’s pretty much it for my daily routine because I will usually drop them off and go straight to the gym.
B&P: What are some challenges you face on a day to day basis?
K: Well, there are some things people have told me are challenges, but I don’t see them as challenges… I have a husband who travels basically all week, so I am working with the two kids, trying to get them places and do my job. I’ve had other moms be like, “Ugh, I don’t know how you do it,” and I’m like, “Well, I don’t know how you do it.” Because they have to go to an office or have to be home with the kids all day, so those are some challenges. My husband and I have been in Charlotte for 12 years and we’ve never had family around us. It’s always been just us. Your friends become family obviously, but once you have kids your time is just… condensed (laughs) and there’s jut a lot to get done. I guess, like I said, I just do it. I look at other people and think this person really has a challenge. I for sure do not have a tough life.
B&P: What makes you feel most beautiful?
K: What makes me feel most beautiful is working out. I love a strong muscular physique, so I think women that are really strong are really beautiful. So when I – this sounds the total opposite of what it should, I know – but when I’m sweaty and really have done a good workout I feel really beautiful. Also, total opposite, when I have a good hair day that makes me feel good too.
B&P: What characteristic in others stands out most to you?
K: The characteristic that stands out most is confidence. My whole life I’ve always been attracted to people who have confidence. Friendships, boyfriends, whatever. I just think that is the most appealing trait because beauty is totally different for everybody. There is the traditional beauty and then there is the nonconventional kind of beauty…the inner beauty and the outer beauty. But I think if you’re yourself and you have confidence in yourself that’s awesome.
B&P: What’s your favorite thing about yourself?
“Umm…” She wiggles, looking up at the ceiling trying to think. “My favorite thing about myself, I think, is… can I say a couple of things?” She smiles.
K: Ok, strength. My inner strength and outer strength. And sense of humor – I love to laugh and I like to make people laugh. And then I would say my hair.
B&P: That’s great! What do you love about your hair the most?
K: It’s super easy to do. You can’t really mess it up! I never really had a choice in what I could do with my hair because I had two aunts who were hairdressers growing up, so they just kind of did it. So I just go with the flow, do whatever, and it’s kind of a chameleon hairdo. I just do whatever with it.
Her hair is several inches past her shoulders, blonde, in loose tousled waves today. It’s parted deep to the side so one gorgeous wave is falling across her cheek. It’s bouncy and bright and light – this ‘chameleon hairdo’ seems to fit her perfectly.
B&P: Who is the most beautiful person you know and why?
K: When I think about this question, I think of all the women in my life. There are so many that I’ve learned so many things from, and so many reasons that I think that they’re beautiful. But when I think about it a little more, there are three specific people. And two of them are my sons. I think they are the most beautiful just because they are young and innocent and they are just kind of accepting of everything. Accepting of people, and the situation they’re in. They don’t read too much into things, they’re not jaded. I just think that is like the coolest thing. And the third person would be my mom. I think that she is conventionally pretty on the outside but she is also the most loving person and really funny and silly. That’s the most beautiful to me.
B&P: So what is it that makes someone beautiful?
K: Confidence makes them beautiful, and being themselves. And not taking things too seriously. Because I think there’s a lot of things, in my humble opinion, that people take really seriously that aren’t serious (she tilts her head and laughs at this). I think that just being able to roll with the punches and not make things more serious than they are makes them beautiful.
I’m taking mental notes. Kelly glows, and maybe that’s her secret. The fact that she’s laughing at things that other people would stress about.
B&P: Ok, what does the word beauty mean to you?
“Oh, hang on.” She pretends to look down at her phone. “I need to google it real quick.” Despite all of our efforts to remain quiet on the set, the whole room laughs at this. Kelly looks up mischievously and laughs too.
K: To me, the word beauty means being yourself and being confident in yourself. I think when I was younger, I grew up seeing the people who were on TV and the people who were on magazines. They were the supermodels, the stick skinny Kate Moss, you know, people like that. So when I was younger I thought that was beautiful. And that’s not me. I’m athletic, I’m curvy. So to me beauty is just realizing who you are and embracing it and being confident in it, knowing that it’s not the same for everybody. Those girls are still beautiful, but it’s just not me. So being true to yourself and not trying to be like somebody else.
B&P: How would you define the everyday extraordinary?
K: Oh, that’s a hard one. It’s hard for me to express it in words, but I think that what it is… This is kind of a long story but most recently I’ve had people say to me, “Oh you have it together. You always have your stuff together. You always look put together. You’ve always got so much going on.” And in reality, I’m a hot mess! I’m not organized, I have no idea what’s going on. I’m kinda just rolling with the punches and taking it as it comes. And I think that is extraordinary, because I can look at other people and think they look like they have it going on, but not all of us do, right? We all have some kind of a challenge in our life whether it’s being a single mom or a working mom or a stay at home mom. Or somebody that’s dealing with an illness or a sick parent or loss of a job. I mean, we are all dealing with challenges and just recognizing that you’re doing a good job, you’re gonna get through it, you’re making it. That’s extraordinary, just dealing with everyday life and getting it done.
“Wow, that literally gave me chills. That was great,” I say. Can I hire her to follow me around and remind me to be myself and give me periodic pep talks when I feel like the sky is falling?
She dramatically flips her hair, laughs and says “Oh, I’m not done yet,” in a breathy tone.
“But wait, there’s more,” I quip. Everyone is laughing again.
B&P: What one word best describes you?
K: This is the hardest question! I asked my boys this, “What one word describes mommy?” and they said “Crazy.”
She doubles over laughing. “So I’ll just go with crazy,” nodding, “I am a little bit crazy. I think that we’re all a little bit crazy in our own way, right?”
“What makes you so crazy?” I ask laughing.
K: They said, “You’re crazy, you’re silly, you’re funny, you have crazy ideas. You just do crazy stuff. And you do it anywhere. Anywhere Mommy.” So I think that that’s me. To be confident enough to look crazy and look silly, I think that’s pretty cool.
We think you’re pretty cool too Kelly.